Archive | February, 2013

Taking Back Your Mercury Retrograde

25 Feb



Yes, ladies and gentlemen, it’s that time again — a time spoken of in warnings from  your eccentric aunt who avidly collects crystals; a time that metaphysicians and spiritualists prepare for a month in advance; a time that can be true chaos and madness for many — where communication breaks down, people from our past suddenly resurface, technology fails us and when focus and concentration seem to disappear.  Yes, it’s 2013’s first Mercury Retrograde and yes, it can be a sucky time.

For those who don’t know, Mercury is the fastest-traveling planet, taking about 88 days to make its journey around the sun.  (Just to put it in perspective, Uranus is the slowest, taking 84 years.)  Whenever Mercury returns and passes “go” it goes retrograde, meaning it gives the optical illusion that it’s moving backwards.  “Backwards” is a fitting word for this three-week time period that typically occurs three times a year, as many people feel like they, too, are moving backwards.  I am profoundly affected by Mercury Retrograde and close friends can attest to my misfortune.  Symptoms include, but are not exclusive to: profound sensitivity, physical exhaustion, rampant impatience, depression, lethargy, emotion breakdowns, technology breakdowns — the list goes on and on.

Long story short, Mercury Retrograde is a hard time for many people and most of us wish it away as soon as it arrives.  But after living through quite a few in my ripe old age, I am convinced it’s time we approach this in a different light.  I am convinced we need to see the inconveniences of this astrological time as helping us, not hurting us.  After all, I have encountered some of my most profound psychological and spiritual changes during this time.  Unfortunately, it all comes under the umbrella of distress and inconvenience.  Yet I’d like to share a personal story during our last retrograde that really encouraged me to see this time in a new light.

The last Mercury Retrograde I experienced was in October, right after Hurricane Sandy.  In New York, we had an abrupt and unusual snowstorm shortly after that week, a snowstorm that was a bit early in the season, even for New York.  In the midst of the storm, I ventured to the grocery store to stock up on food for the weekend in case the snow got worse.  On my way out of the store, which is incidentally an avenue away from my apartment, I put my wallet in my back pocket or in what I thought was my back pocket, distracted by the entourage of oncoming snow.

I got back to my apartment, put away the cans of soup and other winter survival necessities and reached into my pocket to put my wallet on the counter when I realized it was gone.  I search, I tear my apartment apart, I look into grocery store bags, I retrace my steps in the snow, I go back to the store and ask the clerk — my wallet is nowhere to be found.

Now, for many of us, this might not be unusual.  Inconvenient, maybe, but not unusual.  For me, let me note, this was HIGHLY UNUSUAL.  I check for my wallet probably 7-9 times a day on average.  I am hyper vigilant about making sure it’s always on me and I have never, never ever ever lost my wallet.  Ever.  Like, ever.  And I never expected to.

But I did.  And for three weeks, I had no identity, no credit or debit cards, nothing with my name on it that proved that I was me.  Furthermore, due to Mercury’s lack of communication, it took me an addition ten days from the normal ten-day waiting period to get a new I.D. and credit and debit cards.  For all of that retrograde, I was truly identity-less and nothing to show for it.

But despite all this madness, there was an important lesson.  Yes, I had lost my physical identity, but I had also lost my spiritual identity.  During this time, I was not behaving in a way that I was proud of.  I was going out too much, attracting the wrong people, having destructive thoughts that led to destructive emotions that led to a debilitating and overwhelming lack of self.   I had forgotten who I was, I was pretending to be someone else and what made it even worse was, while I enjoyed it, I really missed me, the real me, the me that I really admire, look up to, honor and love.

Mercury helped me realize this in a very physical way.  I was lost, so it was time to lose something that was who I thought I was, not who I really am.  The photo on my old I.D. was no longer me and I spent the remaining days reclaiming the man I no longer recognized.

Iyanla Vanzant encourages us to “find an empowering way to tell our story.”  I urge us to do the same thing with Mercury Retrograde.  Find a reason why the e-mail you’re trying to send never went through; look for the meaning underneath the awkward chance encounter with your ex on the subway whom you haven’t seen in years; dig deeper beyond your computer just abruptly breaking down.  Look for the message, look for the metaphor, look for an empowering way to move your life forward through taking a step backwards.

This is a profound time of growth if we stop and listen.  Scream, yell, throw something and curse this tricky planet of miscommunication.  But when you’re done, listen to what it’s trying to teach you.  Mercury, in the end, I believe anyway, is just ultimately trying to help us reclaim the person we’ve lost.



Finding the Right Matches for Your Light

12 Feb

Finding The Right Matches

For Your Light




Everyone I’ve ever met has a light.  Some of us see it more vividly than others, but we all share this common thread, a common vernacular, a language of light. Light is crucial to the human experience and is more commonplace than water in the spirit realm.  Light wakes us up in the morning, it greets us when we cross over, it aids focus and concentration, it brightens and heals us when called upon.  No doubt, we would be lost without it.

Light is also an apt metaphor when dealing with interpersonal relationships.  Some people in our lives brighten and enhance the light we have to offer, whereas others diminish it, be it consciously or subconsciously.  Those around us who enhance our light typically say “yes” to what we have to offer; they take what we have and amplify it into something greater that would not be possible alone.  They don’t view your light as a threat, but instead, allow it to shine in its own natural radiance.

Then of course, there are those who dim our light, who say “no” to what we have to give.  Light diminishers can be challenging, but it’s been my experience that they are not to be looked upon as “bad people.”  So many times, people don’t know what to do with someone else’s light.  They don’t know how to respond to it, so their default is “no” as they don’t have the ability to match it, intensify it, take what it has to offer and make a contribution.

Not everyone is meant to appreciate the light you have to offer.  And while this can be a disheartening lesson at first, it just goes to show you that light truly is a language.  Some will speak it, others won’t.

As we approach Valentine’s Day, a holiday focused around love, and as we delve ourselves further and further into this Number 6 Year, many of us will find a large emphasis is placed on interpersonal relationships.  When embarking on new relationships and when examining older ones, I hope we continue to ask ourselves: Who are the people in my life who respond best to my light?  If there are some who don’t, where is a better place I can put them so that I can continue to shine?

Your light is your spiritual birthright.  You deserve people who enhance it.  Honor yourself and take the time to find the light you deserve.

Numerologist Alison Baughman on 2013 & The Number 6

4 Feb

Alison Baughman is a nationally-recognized numerologist who was kind enough to answer my questions about 2013, which falls within the Number 6 in Numerology.  Read below her insights, as she discusses marriages, divorces, underdogs and what all of that might have to do with this year.



Alison, we are now in the Number 6 Universal Year, if I’m using that term correctly.  Since we are still new to 2013 and just nearly a month into it, what energy are we coming out of from the Number 5 Universal Year?  I ask this because I’ve heard the words “drama” and “chaos” often associated with the Number 5 Year and I found last year to be hard for many people.

2012 was a 5 Universal Year so the energy associated with the number 5 influenced our experiences last year. The number 5 brings about change, changes we initiate ourselves and sometimes sudden and unexpected changes in our lives. The energy of the 5 tends to break down what limits us and is preventing us from expanding and moving forward. People tend to resist change and prefer to stay with what they are comfortable with. This is why the 5 can seem dramatic and as you said “chaotic.” The 5 pushes us out of our comfort zone. I found that people who were in a 5 Personal Year in 2012 had the most difficulties.

You have termed the Number 6 Year as “blessed.”  What exactly do you mean by that?

I have studied Numerology for a very long time and the word “blessed” is not my word but a direct interpretation of the number 6 based upon study of this ancient science. Consider if you will that the number 6 is kind, self-sacrificing,compassionate, nurturing, and the most loving of all the numbers and you can understand that because of the good that it is capable of doing, many blessings will come. It is said that if a person has a 6 in a Lifepath position, it is an indication of a past lifetime of doing a great deal of good to help others and because of that, that same person is spiritually protected in this lifetime. Add to that, the 6 is one of the numbers in Numerology that very rarely vibrates to the negative aspects that accompany the meanings of each number and you have someone who deserves good things to happen to them. 

I’ve heard you say before that the Number 6 Year is a year of break-ups for many people in relationships that are dysfunctional.  What is it about the Number 6 energy that causes that to happen?  Are many of going to be re-evaluating our romantic and platonic relationships in 2013?

 The 6 is strongly associated with love and places a great deal of emphasis on our relationships.  The number of divorces that occur in a 6 Year defies the odds.  Ideally, in a perfect world, there would be no divorce and we would all live happily ever after but I am not so certain this is our soul’s agenda. We learn from our relationships. Sometimes we need to be in a difficult relationship in order to define what we really want and need in a relationship. 

The 6 encompasses marriage and divorce, both experiences simultaneously existing in the vibration of the 6 and both experiences teaching about love and commitment.  With 2013 being a 6 Universal Year, it will definitely put stress on relationships that do not have a solid foundation.

 On the flip side, I’ve also heard you say the Number 6 often brings romantic partnerships to people who are single.  Is this true?

 Along the same lines , it defies the law of averages when it comes to the of the number of marriages that take place in a 6 Year. A person could be in a relationship for quite sometime and when the 6 comes along, suddenly the relationship gets serious and it is time for a commitment. Because of the strong emphasis that will be placed on the family and family values this year, I also feel this could influence more people to get married this year. The 6 is also considered to be “Cosmic Mother Energy” and the birth and adoption rate should go up during the 6 Universal Year. Some of these marriages could be the direct result of an unexpected pregnancy. We also have to consider that laws that prevented gay marriages are being challenged and overcome and the marriage rate could potentially increase because of this trend.

 Justice plays a big part in the Number 6; how might we see that play out?

The number 6 is the champion for the underdog and will stand up for those who can not stand up for themselves. It will influence our attention to be drawn to this area of society where we need improvement.  It will be a year where underprivileged, disadvantaged and impoverished will receive the attention and hopefully the help they need. Charity, love and compassion are strong vibrations in a 6 Year. 

Some examples of this could be justice for the many people who lost their homes since 2008 to unethical practices from banks that led to foreclosures. Based upon events from last year, there will be a strong campaign against bullying this year. Wherever justice prevails, there is the influence of a 6 somewhere.

 How can Numerology empower people in their daily lives?  How has it empowered you?

If you could have access to the instructions to your life to help you understand its meaning and purpose, wouldn’t you want them? If you wanted to be fully aware of your natural born talents and in what area of life you could achieve your greatest success, wouldn’t you seek that knowledge? If you had access to a crystal ball in order to foresee your future, would you want to know? Numerology provides the answers to those questions and more. 

I also feel one of the greatest gifts Numerology can give you is self-love and self-acceptance. In the knowing of who you are and learning to love yourself, you can accomplish more in life.

On a personal level,  Numerology has given me a perspective on life and our souls journey through life where I have learned to accept every person I meet and not to judge but simply allow them to be who they are. It is a very peaceful place to be, to be able to understand every person I meet by being able to view them through their Numerology.



Numerologist Alison Baughman

Numerologist Alison Baughman

Alison Baughman first discovered Numerology as a child, studied it for a lifetime and began her professional career as a Numerologist in 1999. Today, Alison is a professional Numerologist, Usui Shiki Ryoho Reiki Master, author, lecturer, and for 3 years, was the host of Visible By Numbers, a weekly Internet talk show on BBS Radio.

Alison has studied a wide range of Metaphysical subjects including Divination Tools,
Holistic Healing, Chakras, Meditation, QuiGong, Reiki, Crystals and Mediumship.